What the Soft Girl Era Should Be
- K. N. Jackson
- Jun 26
- 2 min read
I’ll be honest—with all the pastel fits, matchas, lip gloss reels, and carefully curated carousels flooding my feed, I had my own confusion around what the “Soft Girl Era” really meant. Was it about Pilates classes? Wearing matching athleisure sets? Rejecting hustle culture? Romanticizing every activity? I’m here for all of that. But I also started to feel like… in trying to fit into this aesthetic, I might lose my authenticity.
Here’s what I’ve come to realize: softness isn’t avoidance. It’s not laziness or performative femininity. And it’s not just aesthetics. The soft girl era—when done intentionally—is about choosing alignment over exhaustion, presence over performance, and evolution over stagnation. It’s curating a balance. Our challenges made us who we are and for that I am damn grateful.
For women in our 30s, 60s, and beyond, this movement reminds us that it’s never too late to soften into our truth. It's a chance to reclaim our feminine energy, embrace our emotional intelligence, and surround ourselves with friendships that feel nourishing not depleting.
So how do we live the real soft girl life? Here are a few action steps that have been helping me:
Quiet moments to think: Sometimes the softest move is silence and stillness and cleansing your aura with a lit palo santo stick.
Do-nothing days: Rest is radical—and restorative.
Learning to elevate: Whether it’s reading, therapy, or taking a class, growth can be gentle and powerful.
Naming how I feel: Knowing when I’m not okay is just as important as knowing when I’m standing in my power.
Living in alignment with myself: If it feels like home in your soul, you’re doing it right.
And yes—for the record—I’m hooked on matcha. If that makes me a “soft girl,” then I accept that label with joy and intention.
I encourage you to: design your soft girl era from within. Let it reflect your goals, your desires, your needs. Let it be real. Let it be yours.
With harmony and light,
K. N. Jackson | Team Hermonious
Let’s Reflect
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Which belief about the Soft Girl Era have you outgrown or are questioning?
Tag a friend who’s also redefining softness on her terms.
I love the way you defined the aura of softness to align with simply evolving and caring for one’s self, and away from the physical aesthetics, having a girl tribe or the expectation of a certain treatment from men. The “soft girl era” term has become stereotypical and negative, when I’ve always felt it was created in the way you explained. And very much positive. Very much deserved.
Vulnerability is the one part of my Soft Girl Era I keep questioning—I almost wanted to put my tough‑girl armor back on. But as I lean into this softer path, I’m realizing that vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s about staying true to myself and my feelings.