How I Silence My Inner Critic and Reclaim My Peace

July 10, 2025 | Self-Compassion and Self-Love

Some days, my thoughts spiral faster than I can catch them. One moment I’m fine, and the next, I’m questioning my worth, replaying old failures, and letting self-criticism tell stories that simply aren’t true.

I used to sit in those feelings for too long allowing them to steal my joy, my energy, and even my confidence. But I don’t live there anymore. And I want to share what helps me break the cycle.

1. I Get Curious, Not Cruel

Instead of immediately believing every harsh thought that shows up, I’ve learned to ask: Where did this come from? Is this even mine? Most of the time, those negative thoughts were planted by someone else’s insecurities, an old wound, or an outdated belief. So now, when self-criticism creeps in, I pause and question it. That pause? It’s powerful.

2. I Talk Back—With Truth

If my inner critic says, “You’re not doing enough,” I answer back: “I’m doing the best I can, and that’s more than enough today.” I don’t let that voice go unchecked anymore. I replace it with affirmations, truth, and grace. I literally speak life over myself—out loud, when I need to. And yes, sometimes I do it in the mirror with tears in my eyes.

3. I Create Space to Feel Without Judgment

Sometimes the negative thoughts come because something does need my attention. But I’ve learned there’s a difference between reflecting and ruminating. I journal, meditate, or sit in silence—not to punish myself, but to process and move through what’s coming up. I remind myself I’m allowed to feel it without becoming it.

4. I Practice Softness on Purpose

Being gentle with myself isn’t a reward, it’s a necessity. I give myself permission to rest, to say no, to start again. I drink my tea slowly. I step away from screens. I put on music that shifts the energy in the room. I do these things because they remind me, I’m worthy of care—even from myself.

5. I Surround Myself with People Who See the Real Me

Whether it’s a voice note from a close friend, a FaceTime with someone who reminds me of my light, or a supportive community that pours into me—I no longer suffer in silence. Healing doesn’t always happen in solitude. Sometimes it shows up in the love and truth, and someone else is willing to speak over your life.

Final Thoughts:

Challenging negative thoughts is daily work. Some days I get it right ,and other days, I need to give myself a little more time and grace. But I’ve made it a habit to choose love over shame and softness over self-attack. Every time I do, I reclaim a little more of myself.

And if you’re reading this, I want to remind you: You are not your thoughts. You are not your past. You are not what went wrong. You are growing—and that’s worth celebrating.

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With harmony and light,

K. N. Jackson| Team Hermonious

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Let’s Reflect

How will you begin to quiet your inner critic this week?

Comment below:

What’s one way you’ll incorporate softness, self-awareness, or truth into your daily or weekly practice?